12 INSPIRING FACTS ABOUT MY WIFE THAT I WANT TO FINALLY SHARE. -REV ABEIKU OKAI

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12 INSPIRING FACTS ABOUT MY WIFE THAT I WANT TO FINALLY SHARE.

 

Two covenant brothers came to visit me yesterday. Throughout the time, they shook my wife’s hand and said to her repeatedly, “Thank you for being such a great wife to our brother.”

 

One day, one of my spiritual fathers looked me in the eye and said, “As for you, God has blessed you with the kind of wife you have.”

 

As a matter of fact, several persons near and far keep telling me about how amazing Mrs. Baaba Okai is to me. I call her ‘Queeny’, and she calls me ‘Baby’. We’ve been married for eleven years, having met in August 2012 and wedded on my birthday, April 20th, 2013.

 

While many testify of how excellent a wife she is, I feel guilty for not personally proclaiming or appreciating her enough because no one knows her better than me and no one enjoys her gracefulness better than me. For that reason, I want to share 12 reasons why my wife is exceptional among the maidens. Solomon said of the virtuous woman:

 

“She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.'” (Prov. 31:26-29).

 

I can confidently say the same about my wife in all sincerity as a man of God, and without exaggerating, for the following reasons:

 

1. She loves me more than I love her.

 

Because I am a public figure and mostly share about her in public, many think I love my wife. Yes, I love her, but in comparison to her love for me, I come nowhere near. Because of her inexhaustible love for me, she calls me ‘Baby’ but treats me as the King and leader of her life. She puts me in no competition and never make me feel less of a man for any reason.

 

2. She submits like no other.

 

My wife is a pictorial reference of a truly submissive wife. Whichever way the church submits to Christ, my wife follows. And because of that, the harmony and cooperation in our home are thicker than the pregnant clouds.

 

Besides, she serves my family, friends and partners with respect, humility and diligence.

 

3. My vision is her vision.

 

My wife doesn’t have a vision of her own. She has her uniqueness, capabilities, and interests. However, she shares with me the vision and purpose for which I live and do whatever I do. Therefore, when you ask her of her vision, she would recite – word for word – exactly what I would recite to you when you ask me about my vision. And because of that, we live and work together every single step of the way. She is involved in my ministry just as I am involved in her business venture.

 

4. She understands me.

 

It would be a fat lie if I said my wife agrees with me on everything. This is because she has a mind of her own and her personal opinions and worldview. However, the most unique thing about her is that she understands me. In moments where we share conflicting opinions, she would be quicker to listen carefully and attentively to me in order to appreciate my perspective. Where she was sure I was wrong, she would respectfully and most times, jovially, draw my attention to the lapses in my perspective and cause me to make the necessary adjustment.

 

She also knows my weakness and has big heart to accommodate them without seeking to change me by all means and at all cost.

 

5. She meets my emotional needs.

 

As a man, I have strong emotional needs that she always fulfills abundantly. She encourages and spurs me on to take every bull by the horn. She gives me affection, trust, respect, comfort, peace, and above all, intimacy and companionship. You will almost never see me for long without seeing her, and I love that her positive attachment to my bosom.

 

Besides, because of my personality and the nature of my work, I face a lot of challenges. But in every difficulty or challenge, she is like the anchor that keeps my canoe steady in the raging storm.

 

6. She prepares my favourite meals.

 

Having known how attached I was to my mother’s apron string from childhood, my wife assumed the perfect role of preparing the best for my appetite, belly and health. And here, I need to appreciate her mother, Mama Bridget Tanoah Antwi, for teaching her fingers how to dexterously maneuver in the kitchen – she deserves to go for a Kitchen-athon for the Guinness Book of Records.

 

7. She NEVER gets angry with me.

 

I say this with all confidence that my wife never gets angry with me. She may feel hurt, disappointed, or unhappy, and may express her emotions as any human would. However, she would never react or respond to my errors with anger. No! For she knows the difference between being hurt and being angry. And she easily opens room for effective communication to resolve any differences. This attitude of hers always makes me feel guilty whenever I get angry with her. As a result, I have also learned not to be angry with her.

 

It is important to mention that even though she is almost quiet in public, she has a good sense of humor. She infuses our relationship with laughter and light-heartedness. From shared jokes to spontaneous moments of joy, she has a remarkable ability to find humour in everyday situations, even when I am serious. Her laughter is contagious, spreading joy to our children. However, she is also so tender that she can easily shed tears, only to quickly return to her moment of joy.”

 

8. She is not perfect.

 

I never dreamt of marrying a perfect woman. And I am happy my wife isn’t perfect. I love her for who she is just as she loves me for who I am. Thus, because she is not perfect and she knows also that she is not perfect, she always submits and applies herself to self-growth and personal improvement. I married her when she had just completed the senior high school. But marriage and childbirth didn’t stop her from earning her diploma in Theology, and also diploma and degree in Education from the University of Education, Winneba.

 

Besides, she is always open for corrections and directions such that she is always listening, reading, and learning. And when she fails, she is not shy or too big to admit and reset the clock.

 

9. She is an internally satisfied woman.

 

I wish I could buy her the world or something materially substantial that she can flaunt for the world to see she is also married to a so-called rich guy. But no! I don’t have. But one thing is certain: my wife is an internally satisfied woman and proud of whoever I am and whatever I can provide for her.

 

Like every woman, she would love to have the whole world to herself and cruise in her husband’s yacht, but she is very much satisfied with the grace of God upon our family and looks forward rather to fulfilling the mandate of Christ for our life, family and community.

 

This attitude of hers has given me the greatest peace and a non-frustrating life that propels me to pursue my mission of preaching the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

 

10. She loves my hometown and its people.

 

One of the most unique things I love about my wife is her amazing love and respect for my people. When she entered my life, she noticed I was completely devoted to the progress and development of Senya Beraku, my hometown. Instead of resenting and pulling me away from such a strong attachment, she embraced my people, learned the language, and lived among them as one of them, earning her the nickname, Maame Senya. She has never spoken ill of my people but has rather been actively involved in every activity and community engagement that I carry out towards their development. She is such an amazing soul.

 

11. She is an excellent mother to my children.

 

Her attention to our children, their education, and upbringing is top-notch. She not only looks after them physically but also emotionally and spiritually. Besides, even when she personally does anything for them, she would inform them it is coming from me. And she would lead them to always surprise me on my important dates and events.

 

She has indeed built a kind of home that our children find the greatest joy and pride in.

 

12. She is a faith-filled Christian.

 

My wife’s faith in Christ is stronger than mine. The boldest decisions I have taken towards ministry were either initiated by her or strongly supported by her. For example, she was the main brain behind my coming into full-time ministry. She had persuaded me for almost a year to resign from work and focus fully on the call of God. I hesitated and sometimes quarreled with her about our welfare situation if I resign from work. And she would say, “God will take care of us if you obey Him.”

 

And God has been faithful and gracious, bringing the impact of my ministry to the doorsteps of countless people both offline and online.

 

All I can say in conclusion is that, Thank you, Queenie, for loving me, choosing me, and making me the man I am.

 

Idi Yompo

 

Abeiku Okai

Pastor and Counselor

(+233) 0249287855

16th April, 2024