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The decision to start living together is a natural progression of romantic relationships. But sometimes lovers’ illusions shatter against the realities of daily life and unwillingness to listen to each other. Financial matters pose another challenge for a couple.
You should have shared goals.
As a couple, you should work together towards a common financial goal. This will make you feel like partners. Of course, you don’t need to directly ask, “What are your goals?” Dream together about what you would like to see in your life in five years. Find out how your partner envisions their life at the age when children grow up (and, by the way, how many will there be?).
Pay attention to your partner’s financial habits and impulsivity.
Sometimes a couple moves in together literally within the first weeks of dating. Excited about this new stage in life, neither of them dares to talk about such mundane matters as finances. Already at the beginning of the relationship, pay attention to how impulsive your partner is and whether they are capable of planning. Assessing this is not always easy, but it’s an important point.
Mine – yours – ours.
After deciding to live together, set boundaries: “What’s mine, what’s yours, and what can be considered ours?” The first impulse, of course, will be to combine all finances. However, experts advise against doing just that. Honesty above all. Don’t hide financial expenditures from each other. Secret shopping trips will erode trust within the couple. This doesn’t mean you need to account for every penny spent, but it’s better if your personal expenses are within an agreed-upon limit, and major purchases are discussed together in advance. 💬💸
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