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I find Achraf Hakimi’s story about his marriage to be intriguing, particularly because it raises important questions about the dynamics of marriage. While the veracity of the PSG and Morocco international footballer’s story has not been confirmed, the discussions surrounding it have prompted me to consider my own views on the matter.
Personally, I do not agree with Hakimi’s alleged decision to keep his property under his mother’s name while living with his wife. It seems unfair and disrespectful to his partner. I would not want my father to do that to my mother, and I would not want to see it happen to my sister or daughter either.
However, I have also heard compelling arguments from others who support Hakimi’s actions. Many people have pointed out that too many men have been hurt and lost everything in today’s world of self-centered relationships, contractual marriage and affirmative actions, which is why they see Hakimi as a hero. While I find the jokes and memes about the situation to be amusing, I do think it’s important for women to take the issue seriously and reflect on how they can have healthy, respectful, and helpful relationships with their husbands.
In my experience, I have heard too many men express frustration and pain about how their wives treat them. Some have even regretted getting married.
This is a sobering reminder that too many men are suffering needlessly in marriage. This is not to say that women are not also going through difficulties in their marriage. So before you raise the ‘What-about’ kickback and gender balance argument, allow me space to address women as my only audience at this moment.
As women, you must be mindful of how you treat your husbands. You cannot be selfish, arrogant, careless, or disrespectful. You should not view your husbands as means to an end, but rather as loving partners with whom you can share your lives. Sex, children, cooking and housekeeping are not gifts you give to your husbands; they are not the sacrifices you bring to the marriage altar; rather, they are blessings from God that benefit both of you.
I am concerned that too many men have lost trust in women and do not want to get married or entrust their lives and property to their spouses. If women do not change their behavior, they will cause their children to suffer needlessly. The Bible instructs older women to “train younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God” (Titus 2:4-5).
In conclusion, Hakimi’s story is like perforating the balloon with just the tip of a pin. As a woman, you must reflect on your behaviour in marriage and how you treat your husband, knowing that marriage is not just about you, but about the positive relationship you build with your husband and the people around you, as well as the future that benefits both of you. Your husband will not trust you just because you are a wife. You must do everything to ensure he sees you as his safest resting to place to keep his future, heart, treasures and secrets.
BIC Abeiku Okai
Anathallo Chapel Int.
Kasoa
Inside Nyaniba Health College Campus
18/04/2023