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Abeiku Okai
Your friends have the right and freedom to keep their personal matters to themselves. It is not an obligation for a friend to inform or discuss every matter that concerns them with you. Their failure to inform you must not affect your love for them or the relationship. You should not also misconstrue their neglect of you in certain matters as evidence of them not trusting you or not wanting you. Many times we make too much of nothing in our interactions with others on trivial matters.
A friend’s relationship, marriage, traveling, location, etc. are not matters that you must be informed about or made a part of by all means. For example, if a friend is pregnant, marrying or traveling and they are unable to inform or invite you, don’t make issues out of it. He or she may have genuinely forgotten to tell you, no matter how close you guys are. Yes, most of the time, we all forget the most important people on the most important matters of our lives’ ceremonies, especially when we are marrying. We all do that. No need to take offense and begin to assume your friend hates you or doesn’t like you. It’s just an error.
Besides, the person deserves the right to say, as for this event or issue, he or she would not inform you. That’s their business. Friendship is not built on sharing everything; it is built on sharing love despite all challenges and weaknesses. So if you get offended and sever the relationship because of such matters, it means you were never a good friend in the first place.
The truth is that we don’t know what all friends go through, and sometimes they have to endure a lot to get things done. In the process of their difficulties, they may not be able to tell us everything. Therefore, it makes no sense to make mountains out of molehills. Save your heart in this life and allow people their space without feeling rejected and dejected.
Abeiku Okai.
Anathallo Chapel Int.
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Photo: one of my days acting and directing movies, before social media and our contemporary access to digital gadgets. The actress on the right is my mother. Nostalgic!